Why people cheating in relationship?

Lately I had a long conversation with one of my chat friend on relationships and broke-up; mostly it happens when some one is fed up with life at certain point of his life, which people don’t get answers for important questions. Like the same that friend also was in need of help to share with people about his life which he got heart breaking era which he/she is going through.

He asked me one big question which I myself also I ask to me since I broke up with my last relationship: why people cheat one another? It’s simple when there is acceptable reason for the issue. Nevertheless without any reason just broke up is unexpectable in every relationship matters and hence it’s real heart breaking feeling for some one who have experienced this before.

After all the long conversation I felt like thinking a lot about this because still I have never got answer of the same question after the last relationship broke up. Every time I contact her I raise the same question but so far got only one answer that is, “Just leave it” and don’t try to find an answer for that.

So, those two incidents make me interested to search on this matter and here are some few ways I have got from my readings.

Cheating is usually a symptom of an unhealthy relationship. It destroys friendships, breaks trust, and causes guilt, anger, hurt and many other negative emotions. Cheating in relationships is not going to last. People know all these facts, but still go on cheating others.

The major point about cheating in relationships is that it is accidental. Most people do not want to cheat on their associates. A known fact is that most persons who experience infidelity in their relationships are likely to experience in future also, even when they move on to other relationships. This is pretty incredible, but true. Some people think that getting badly burned once would be sufficient. However, this is not quite the way it occurs for many people.

There are several reasons why cheating, adultery, infidelity and extra marital affairs often occur in many relationships. People are complicated and appearances can be deceptive. Cheating in relationships depends upon several factors. One important factor is the choice of a partner or spouse. If the choice is not in line with what they require or wish, or with what their partner can give them, there is a chance of cheating.

Cheating also occurs when people fail to give their relationships priority by putting time and energy into them. Another major reason is the failure to understand the issues that led to infidelity in the first place. Many people do not want to analyze the role they played in the failure of a relationship. In most cases, they blame others for things that went wrong rather than look inward for complete understanding.

Cheating often occurs in many marital relationships. Communication is here the most problematic issue. For a myriad of reasons, partners get little time to talk about feelings with each other, particularly negative feelings. In some relationships, partners are not allowed to share unhappiness. Misunderstandings also make people feel that their spouse does not want to hear their problems. So they do not talk about difficulties. The lack of a sense of empowerment, issues of self esteem and unequal partnership are also significant problems in any relationship.