HAPPY NEW YEAR

For last year’s words belong to last year’s language
And next year’s words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning.
Happy New Year 2009

NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS!

We make them, we rarely keep them and for some reason this does not upset us, them being New Year resolutions. Lose weight, quit smoking, start jogging, ride the bike to work, finish War and Peace or simply make peace with your family the list is only limited to our sins. The good news is this list of must do’s can be regurgitated every year because no one really believes anyone is going to achieve anything on their list. New Year resolutions are those things you make when you need to ease the guilt of something, you know you should do but deep down really don’t want to do

What if and I know this stretches the imagination, what if your New Year resolution this year was to simply accept that you had not done all those things you said you would do. What if your goal was to have no expectations of self this year but to let go of all the regrets, missed opportunities and unsaid words? So follow me with this..what if instead of giving yourself more stuff to hold onto to or fill up your life you let a little bit go? Then maybe you would have room for other things to enter different things which might add more layers to your life or greater depth. Maybe by letting go a little pressure would be taken off, a small amount of happiness might creep in and maybe because you are filled with more joy and want to jump into life you could give up smoking because it no longer fits into your life.

The bigger the expectation attached the harder the task, which is why so many New Year resolutions sink without a trace. If you want to try to give up smoking be realistic and pick a less stressful time than the holidays. If you want to exercise more be practical and start with a evening stroll with the dog around the neighborhood. If you want to lose weight don’t deprive yourself of food start by learning more about your food habits what you eat, why you eat and how you can serve food and cook it in ways that are tasty and healthy. When you have the information and the skills then start these life changing things don’t expect to just wake up one day and magically lose a craving for fast food and cigarettes.

Start your New Year off with acceptance of self, forgiveness of self and self love. Accept who you are, where you are and all that you are because honestly until you do those things nothing you do is going to work as you want it to. This New Year start of without expectations but with hope and love in your heart. It is a brand new day step into it with the confidence Creator thinks you are perfect just as you are.

LIFE: IT’S ALL ABOUT CHOICES

“Life is all about choices, but sometimes some people are hard to choose what’s right and what’s wrong for them and it depends on the situation too…”

Today morning I got up with the thought that whoever we are, whatever we go through, is the manifestation of the choices that we have made. Life is all about the choices that we make and don’t make. Every moment we keep making new or renewed choices. Every aspect of our life is determined by our choices and intentions. Life is about the uniqueness of an individual, the concern with the meaning and purpose of living and the freedom that is his/ her most important and distinctively human property. We must accept our responsibility for everything about ourselves, not just our actions, but our attitudes, our emotions and even our personalities. We ourselves are responsible for our emotions, because they are ways in which we choose to react to the world. When the frustration reaches its peak, I have to choose to either outrage or to remain silent. So even though we are not aware of it, our freedom and hence our responsibility extends to everything we think of and do.

There are times, however, when we attribute our behaviors and actions to the external reasons and factors. This is illusory because we all are aware of our freedom, however, at times of temptation or indecision the anguish over power us not because of the fear of some external object, but the awareness of ultimate unpredictability of our own behavior. I fear of doing something for which I know the consequences, yet, I feel anguish when I wonder, whether I would be able to hold myself from making a choice, for which I know I will have to face the consequences. Anguish, the consciousness of our freedom, is painful, and we typically try to avoid it by seeking the reasons outside, but such escape is illusory, for it is a necessary truth that we are free and no one else but only we are responsible for the choices that we have made. We all make our individual choices with full awareness, and no one else determines them for us. So If I make certain choices, I must be prepared for its consequences. There is no escape from the anguish of freedom; to flee responsibility is itself a choice. Since a person is essentially a unity, not just a bundle of desires and habits but there must be for each person some fundamental choices that give meaning of every particular aspects of his/ her behavior.

Considering this postulate, if I am in a tormenting situation, it’s me who has made the choices to be in this situation on the first place. If I continue to remain into redundant relationships, it’s because I have asked for it. If I find myself suffocating in the complex situations of life, it’s because of the choices that I have made in the past. If I find a pattern of drawing people close to me who give me pain, it’s because I have chosen to be in that pain. So what I am today, or the kind of situation I am into, no one else but I am responsible for it.

Will this realization create remorse or self pity in me? No, it would rather help me to be at peace. Why do I get frustrated for something that I have chosen for myself? This awareness probably will enable me to accept the fact that the life I am living today is what I have chosen for me. No choice is right or wrong when we make it, its only later we realize whether this is what we wanted for ourselves. With this realization, I am the best friend as well as the worst critique of my own self. This way I will be able to reflect my own actions through continued critical analysis, yet accept myself whole heartedly for all my humanly weaknesses and take responsibility of my actions. And if I choose to change certain aspects of my life or behavior, then it’s only me who has to take the steps in an organized way. From my past experiences so far, I have learned that no matter how the situations may be adverse, the energy is within us to change our behavioral patterns, habits, surroundings and situations to the way we want. We have to be aware of the strength, the enormous power that is already there within us.

This awareness also makes us take control of our emotions and feelings. After all our emotions are determined by the way we feel about something. If I am angry it is because I have chosen to be angry. The more I am aware of my anger, and the more I am not just angry and the more I am capable of taking control of my own emotions, for to be aware of, that I am feeling or behaving in a certain way would make a difference to me.

The authenticity of taking responsibility of my action would also require respecting the freedom of other people. This is challenge to us all, to become more truly self aware and to exercise our power of reflecting, introspecting, being critically aware, accept ourselves the way we are and yet move towards growth.

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HaPpY B' DaY KokkY

I knw its Too Late to Wish my Lovely cousin in His first b' Day....... But you knw guys I was lil away from My PC that I cudnt do dis....... HAPPY B DAY Dear Loving ZIB...... I dedicate this Poem for him

Zibriqan Bin Mohamed Abdull Wahhab 21st December 2007 - 21st December 2008 ( 1 year )

You Are A Gift Some people give the gift
of peace and tranquility
to every life they touch.
They are always who they really are.
They are blessedly reliable,
dependably good,
predictably pleasant,
loved and treasured
by all who know them.
You are one of those people.
You are a gift
of peace and tranquility
to our familly.

Happy B' Day Love