Unfair and Injustice; should persuade, defeat, and prevail

Most recently I applied a course which is sponsored by my organization, with the full ambition of succeeding the placement and hoping for my dreams comes true. Fortunately no one could beat me against the placement and I have rewarded a merit scholarship. Hence then it’s not confirmed yet till the college council approved the plot for me. I filled all the necessary documents and hand over to the in charge guy…

A week later I got a call from office informed that I was not qualified for the plot, which was shocking for me, as so many my colleagues was enrolling the course and most of them were excessively lower than my standard.

I myself obtain an appointment from the college registrar for justify the reason… then only I knew that the application form which was sent from organization was too late to get a plot form required course, and they as well know that very well before..

As an employee I believe this is not the way government organizations have to do and this had happen in a not responsible approach, which lead to fail excellent relationship between employees and the organization.

This was one of the recent unfairness I have experienced and I am very sure there are so many young and innocent people who will face many more injustice case like this, but the problem is we as the people, most of the time did not notice those kind and even if we know most people keep quite and live the way they live before. But I think success won’t come without defeating such unfair and injustice activities faced our daily life.

Everyone has to face unfairness almost at every turn in one's life. The reactions to any unfairness shown towards us may vary from anger to extreme cynicism. It is important to learn to moderate one's thought processes and reactions otherwise life may become too difficult to live.

Life is not going to be fair at all turns. Everyday there are going to be situations where we have to confront unfair people and injustice. There are going to be people who violate traffic rules and yell at you instead. There are going to be bosses who would like to pin all failures on you. You work hard but all recognition and reward is enjoyed by your colleague. Undeserving people would get the entire raise and you will be bypassed. There are going to be colleagues who project you as incompetent. There are going to be people who commit mistakes and innocents lose their lives. You will be swindled, cheated upon and your money taken by scamsters.

This is not to paint a negative or bleak picture of life to frighten. Success in life depends to a great deal on how well we react to unfairness and injustice.

Do we lose our cool and respond back in the same manner. Are we also going to shout back, act the villain, back bite and look for opportunities to swindle because that is the way world is made.

Is 'give what you get' your response to unfairness and injustice.

Our response to such unfairness will dictate our success and where we end up in life. So how do we react to unfairness and injustice?

Take Responsibility

When we take responsibility for all events unfolding around us, we have won half the battle. While there may be unfairness in situations, however do we put all the blame on others? Make a list of 5 things you could have done to avoid such situations. This would help us to avoid being at the receiving end in future.

Expectations

Often our expectations are too high from others and society in general. This causes a stressful situation and negative reactions. Be gentle on your expectations from others. There is no better reaction to unfairness than being gentle and understanding. This would make the others realize their own folly.

Belief in Human Goodness

There may be situations where we have been unfair ourselves. But it does not mean we are bad. Believe every human being is good. There may be situations which would have created negative reactions.

Responding Positively

Responding and reacting to unfairness in an emotional state may cause more negativity and damage. Responding with maturity and cool would help us to find the right solutions. If nothing else we are equipping ourselves to face the realities of life in a healthy and intelligent state of mind.

We can choose how we react to unfairness and injustice. We can be negative and rant and rave about it or be positive or proactive in dealing with it. Our success in life greatly depends upon our being positive.

Words, Trust and Relationship

Interpersonal relationships are social connections, associations and affiliations between people. They vary in levels of depth and intimacy and cover different aspects such as friendship, family, boy-girl relationship and marriage. Regardless of the different kinds of relationship or the different role which a person plays in a social entity, conflicts may arise and can strain a relationship. Trust is an important element in maintaining a healthy and harmonious relationship. Conflicts normally arise due to the betrayal of trust between two parties in a relationship. Whenever there is a conflict, parties may resort to hurling harsh words and insults on each other which may eventually lead to emotional stress.

Trust is the pillar which supports relationships. Lies are the culprits for distrust and suspicion in relationships. Lies should be taken seriously because for every time a lie is told, the level of trust will drop and create more and more suspicion between parties. Eventually, the person who tells the lies will lose his credibility and this will strain the relationship. In today’s modern society of heightened stress and competition, lies are inevitable and serve as a convenient tool to evade trouble and protect oneself. However, this form of convenience is exchanged with the reduction in trust. A person who has his trust misplaced before may have difficulty trusting people again. Therefore, with regards of relationship, once there is zero trust between both parties, this relationship has failed. Honesty is the best policy!

Words can be the most powerful tool but the most destructive weapon in the world. Words can be in the form of praise and compliment but also a weapon that can hurt and leave an emotional scar in a person. For instance, rumors are able to cause a person to break down and become adversely affected because of the large number of people being involved. When it comes to relationship, hurtful remarks and insults being hurled on a person in the fit of anger during conflicts can deeply affect the person’s psychological and emotional state. The impact of these words can be further intensified especially when it come out from a person who you are closely attached to. The emotional effect may heal over time but it can also change a person’s perception of humanity and relationships permanently.

In conclusion, trust and words are closely related to each other in a relationship. Any incorrect management of these two important elements can strain a relationship. Anger management, character building and emotional stress management are crucial to prevent conflicts and handle any aftermath of failed relationships. Therefore, one should not take things to be granted and learn to cherish relationships.

Why people cheating in relationship?

Lately I had a long conversation with one of my chat friend on relationships and broke-up; mostly it happens when some one is fed up with life at certain point of his life, which people don’t get answers for important questions. Like the same that friend also was in need of help to share with people about his life which he got heart breaking era which he/she is going through.

He asked me one big question which I myself also I ask to me since I broke up with my last relationship: why people cheat one another? It’s simple when there is acceptable reason for the issue. Nevertheless without any reason just broke up is unexpectable in every relationship matters and hence it’s real heart breaking feeling for some one who have experienced this before.

After all the long conversation I felt like thinking a lot about this because still I have never got answer of the same question after the last relationship broke up. Every time I contact her I raise the same question but so far got only one answer that is, “Just leave it” and don’t try to find an answer for that.

So, those two incidents make me interested to search on this matter and here are some few ways I have got from my readings.

Cheating is usually a symptom of an unhealthy relationship. It destroys friendships, breaks trust, and causes guilt, anger, hurt and many other negative emotions. Cheating in relationships is not going to last. People know all these facts, but still go on cheating others.

The major point about cheating in relationships is that it is accidental. Most people do not want to cheat on their associates. A known fact is that most persons who experience infidelity in their relationships are likely to experience in future also, even when they move on to other relationships. This is pretty incredible, but true. Some people think that getting badly burned once would be sufficient. However, this is not quite the way it occurs for many people.

There are several reasons why cheating, adultery, infidelity and extra marital affairs often occur in many relationships. People are complicated and appearances can be deceptive. Cheating in relationships depends upon several factors. One important factor is the choice of a partner or spouse. If the choice is not in line with what they require or wish, or with what their partner can give them, there is a chance of cheating.

Cheating also occurs when people fail to give their relationships priority by putting time and energy into them. Another major reason is the failure to understand the issues that led to infidelity in the first place. Many people do not want to analyze the role they played in the failure of a relationship. In most cases, they blame others for things that went wrong rather than look inward for complete understanding.

Cheating often occurs in many marital relationships. Communication is here the most problematic issue. For a myriad of reasons, partners get little time to talk about feelings with each other, particularly negative feelings. In some relationships, partners are not allowed to share unhappiness. Misunderstandings also make people feel that their spouse does not want to hear their problems. So they do not talk about difficulties. The lack of a sense of empowerment, issues of self esteem and unequal partnership are also significant problems in any relationship.

Another Election!

Another election is ahead, whenever I met a friend now days they keep talking about upcoming election. And some of them request to vote for candidate they support, or might be some of their relative or friend.

Always I keep thinking about which candidate I will Vote for, however it’s hard to say just NO to people who request me to vote for their desired candidate.

I always had my own policies which I select my vote will goes for. I suggested writing down how I select the best candidate among all.

Winner use hard argument but soft word

Looser use soft argument but hard word

Winner sees possibilities

Looser sees problems

Winner sees potentials

Looser sees the past

Winner is like a thermostat

Looser are like thermometers

Winner says “I must do something"

Looser say something must be done

Winner sees the gain

Looser sees the pain (mostly after the Election Day)

A winner makes commitment

A Looser makes a problem

Winner has dreams

Looser have schemes

When a winner makes mistakes, say “I was wrong"

When a Looser makes mistakes, say “it wasn’t my fault"

The winner says IT may be difficult but it is possible

The looser say it may be possible

The winner always has program

The looser always has an excuse

The winner say let me do it for you

The looser say that is not my job

The winner sees an answer for every problem

The looser sees problem for every answer

The winner is always part of answer

The looser is always part of the problems

This is how clearly we can see who is the right and who is the wrong candidate to select in any kind of election.