I never meant to hurt you
the way I know I have.
Your caring means more to me
than anything and I'll do whatever it takes
to prove that to you.
Since the day I met you and
your love touched my heart
I knew that my life would never be the same.
Please forgive me for the pain I've caused.
I'll make it up to you every chance I get.
You have my heart and my love forever.
( this poem is dedicated to pinkroxe )
Every love affair has its lifetime. As long as it has a start it has an end too. Some relationships last to the end of partner’s lifetime some die soon after they started.
Love may start as the strongest passion but time passes and the storm of emotions calms down, relationships once so bright and full of surprises become routine. It drags on for a while and then comes crisis. A couple can either survive through it or fall apart.
Even when the love is gone it’s always hard to realize that you have to quit something once so good. There’s no certain way to decrease the sad feelings about falling apart. You may only try to stay civilized people about it and to let the one who’s leaving do it without making up grandiose scandals and hysterics.
Although some think that it’s better to stay enemies than friends because than you will have nothing to regret about and won’t execute meaningless attempts to get things back. But is it so right to ruin all the memories about the happy time two people have spent together with ugly scenes screaming and blaming each other in the worst sins?
It’s over when it’s over and sometimes it’s obvious that all is over. Two people scream and shout one at the other almost every day, they have nothing to talk about and if they do every conversation turns into a quarrel, one finds faults with everything the other does, they both simply annoy each other. That’s definitely the end.
The question is where the love’s gone. Nobody knows it. Maybe they’ve been spending too much time together and finally have started to bore each other. Maybe he has stopped telling her about his love and she has stopped feeling it. Maybe time has made the illusions disappear and the reality has turned to be not what they both expected. Maybe there was only passion and after it’s gone nothing has left. There can be plenty of those maybes. Every misfortune has its own face. It may even be that nothing is over but people need to take a little rest one from the other or try to diversify their relationships. In fact when each one of a couple is willing to fight to make love stay they’ll find the way to do it.
The real tragedy is when one still feels the love but the other is bored and wants to leave. If the feeling is really gone no tricks will help to keep the partner, sooner or later he or she will finally leave and those few more weeks together won’t make you happier. The only thing you can really do in this case is to try to get over him/her as soon as possible. That misery will pass as the happiness did.
Sometimes (and it specially refers to women) a man loses his interest to a woman because she has given up her job, interests, friends and etc. in order to become the part of his life, to be everything he needs. He doesn’t have to conquer her no more; she has stopped being a personality with her own life that he had once fallen in love with. If fact this is one of the general mistakes people do. They get too comfortable and stop fighting for each other’s love. And then when a partner starts packing bags they wonder where I went wrong.
But still in very many cases lost love isn’t anyone’s fault. It is just the way things go. We should never stop believing that next time the feeling will be real and will finally last to the very end. We have no limit of times that we can fall in love and so although it’s sad to lose love, each times we do we should try to look at it as on the chance to find a new better one.
Falling in love is quite complicated thing for me. Still I don’t believe I have been loved by anyone, which may be a good reason I don’t find the exact meaning of what love could be. Anyhow it’s quite easy for point out True love in theoretically, as it happens very rarely.
Love; its simple four letter word commonly thrown around three to four letter word. Most commonly people say I love you or I love her/him. It’s very easy to say but it has a valuable meaning more than just say it, and that’s the part we don’t take it seriously.
People say love can do everything. But there are few things love isn’t that we don’t keep it in mind. Love isn’t a feeling. Although real love is accompanied by strong feelings, it’s more than just a feeling. Real love will not be completed without sharing, caring, respecting, helping and understanding. A relationship wouldn’t last long just on emotions, In fact knowledge of respecting each other feeling the other one’s feeling is the basis of a successful relationship.
Most I see here fall in love very soon same as falling love to a movie star or without seeing, or even without having a real conversation. Do you believe that without knowing a person could lead us to a healthy relationship? Definitely I would oppose to it. Knowing about the other person is the key. This didn’t mean just know the other for name sake. From my perception it’s about the person’s personality and character. We commonly called the typ.
Talking about falling in love and what’s the real meaning of true love most stories defined that a relationship doesn’t work without a common life goal. Saying that we all have a goal that lead to success our love is not enough I guess. Firstly just living together doesn’t mean this is moving to common goal. We need to move forward in the same direction as the other person as well as a relationship is based long term, more over to life long. Both partners have to have common life purpose to achieve in this relationship.
One common mistake we had in our relationships is thinking that love is just sex; indeed Love isn’t sex. Any long last relationship doesn’t mean that sex played a big role; it’s a very small part of big portion. There are lots of ways to share feeling and much more meaningful than sex.
Sometimes we don’t find the real meaning of such things in our life but we understand that. Likewise love is very meaningful unlike we see how it works. I have been in this game more than once, but unfortunately those meanings are which I never find in it. Those great features are yet untold stories which is to be discovered someday, and that’s the day I could be proud of having bad experience in what went before. Cox that experience is the cause to think about what true love means?
It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been lying about some important matters. Another factor that can destroy a friendship is idle gossip. Of course, in romantic relationships, infidelity is the greatest destroyer of trust.
If something happens to destroy the trust between two friends, that trust is very hard to ever establish again. If a friendship gets into trouble because one of the people stops trusting the other person, the friendship is probably finished forever. Lovers often work harder to fix a broken trust, because the emotions are so intense, and families may be at risk if the relationship fails.
When you are in a friendship, or if you want to establish a romantic relationship, it’s better to be trustworthy from the beginning. You must always be very careful not to destroy the bond of trust that you build up between the two of you.
What are some of the ways in which trust can be destroyed in a friendship?
One common thing that destroys many friendships happens when a friend finds out that you have been talking about them behind their back. It doesn’t even matter if what you said was true or false or if the gossip was malicious or not, most people are horrified to discover that a trusted friend has been talking about them to others. They become worried that many of their deepest secrets they have entrusted to you may be spread all over town or all over the Internet.
It’s bad enough if you have repeated a few true facts to others that your friend has revealed to you. If it turns out that you have exaggerated a few things or made things up, then you truly don’t deserve to have that friendship anyway, and your friend is right to dump you.
Even if you say you haven’t told all their most important secrets, your friends will stop believing in you. Once you have destroyed your credibility, you don’t have much left.
Another thing that can hurt a friendship or relationship is what one person calls harmless teasing, and the other calls hurtful remarks. If you have a sense of humor that is often quite cutting or cruel, stop it!
Don’t try to weasel your way out of your responsibility for your remarks by saying that the other person is just too sensitive and doesn’t have a sense of humor. That kind of excuse will only work once or twice. After that, if you keep making the same kind of insulting remarks and say you’re just teasing, you may have to kiss the relationship goodbye.
Even something that is as seemingly harmless as always being late, can signal to your friend or lover that you don’t really respect or value them. Once they get fed up enough because of your chronic lateness, they will start noticing more and more negative things about you.
Eventually, they may just decide that you are too unreliable and that the relationship has more negative aspects than positive aspects. The trust is gone.
If your friend or lover tells you that they are upset over something you have done, you need to hear them out sincerely, and explain yourself without making excuses or telling them that they are too sensitive. Then you must make a sincere commitment to change the undesirable behavior.
The bottom line for being trusted in any relationship or friendship is that you must always treat the other person with respect. That is how you build trust in a relationship.
PS : This article was written by friendship expert Royane Real, in her popular book "Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends"
Recently I haven't update my blog with any good article so that when I think of updating, I find this article from internet which was written by a great author Alex Blackwell, and I thought to share with my blog readers as this issue is quite important to know all of us. So let’s go with this.
Knowing how someone wants to be loved and then providing that love are two separate things. Sometimes marriages and other relationships end because either one person does not understand how to love or meet the needs of the other; or one partner refuses to meet the needs of the other.
To love consciously is a choice. Mary Beth and I often say being married is very similar to having another full-time job – you get out of it what you put into it.
Our marriage is like a savings account. My wife and I make deposits into it never expecting we may need to make a withdrawal. However, when we do request a withdrawal there are no associated penalties.
Yes, we argue over the temperature in the car or who really forgot to feed the dog, but when it really matters; when it really counts, we make the consciousness choice to give each other the love that is requested and needed.
With over 23 years of marriage under our belts, we have found the following strategies work best to love intentionally; to love authentically and to love consciously.
Show Appreciation
A simple “thank you” in response to a trivial or ordinary item can make a significant difference. It only takes a few short moments to utter these two words, but the impact can be felt for a very long time.
Showing gratitude is also the best strategy for ensuring the things you are most grateful for continue to happen. When we stop and tell our partners what we are grateful for, we are also telling the Universe. By making the effort, the conscious decision, to express our thanks we are in a better position of receiving more of it in the future.
If you want your partner to be grateful, it starts by you showing gratitude, first.
Be Happy, Not Right
Here’s a question for you, “Would you rather be right, or happy?” Too often our pride and egos can keep us from enjoying intimate relationships. We stew over what we think are injustices, but are perhaps only misunderstandings.
We carry grudges and do not show enough grace, passion or forgiveness to the person we care most about. Our need to be right can overshadow our need to receive, and give, love.
Take a look at what your pride is costing you. If intimacy is strained and the relationship is off track you may want to reconsider the value of your anger or self righteousness. Here’s the thing: You may be right in the argument although you partner thinks otherwise, but you will never be wrong when you put your partner first. Happiness always feels better than vindication.
No Day But Today
What would you say to your partner if you knew this was the last day you would be together? Would you complain about the television being too loud, or would you remind your partner of their value and significance?
Life does have an expiration date. This isn’t meant to be a downer – just a reality we all share. It’s what you do with this information that will make the difference. While it’s very difficult to sustain a high-level of connection and passion on a day-to-day basis, there are some simple things you can do to convey your partner’s importance to let them know they are important today:
No Judgments
Judgments are often times rooted in perception, not reality. Judgments are also a piece of how you see the world, not the way the world, or in this case your partner, actually exists.
The harm with judgments is resentment and anger is typically the outcomes – not the change that is expected. When a judgment is made, there is an implied belief the behavior or trait being judged should be corrected. However, the person receiving the judgment does not always share the same expectation.
As a result, communication is impaired, connection is deteriorated and conflict ensues. To love deliberately and consciously requires loving your partner with a different filter – a cleaner filter that does not have the residue of past containments.
Be Aware of Your Own Thoughts & Feelings
Loving authentically is dependent on loving yourself, first. Before you share love, and share yourself with someone, it is important to beware of what you want. Reality suggests, however, we fall in love and begin relationships before we have a clear idea of our own true feelings.
When this happens, there is still plenty of time to discover your needs – this is called growth. Give yourself opportunities outside of the relationship. Build friendships and pursue interests on your own.
A good relationship exists when both people can live without the other, but choose to be together. A relationship built on a foundation of sharing different interests cultivates more life and depth into it.
You own your thoughts and feelings. These make you unique and keep you grounded with who you really are or growing to become. By doing so, you are in a much better position to love freely and honestly. Nature has a way of taking care of those things we put the most energy in and want to grow even stronger.
Loving Consciously
The power of love extends its reach when we will love intentionally. Real love, authentic love, springs to life and is sustained when we make the choice to feed it with our deliberate passion. Our souls are nourished when our partners realize we know how to love them.
There will be a day when I no longer share this life with my wife. When that day arrives, my hope is she will know my intent was to discover exactly what she wanted and my conscious choice was to give her more of that.
